Tier 2 · Targeted

Coping and emotion-regulation skills

Explicitly teach the student to notice feelings and use a calming strategy before they escalate.

Setup: 1 hour Who: Counselor, teacher

How to do it

  1. Teach feelings vocabulary and body signals (“My face gets hot when I’m angry”).
  2. Teach 3–4 calming strategies: deep breathing, counting, squeezing a stress ball, positive self-talk.
  3. Practice the strategies when the student is calm, many times.
  4. Build a personal calm-down plan with the student.
  5. Prompt the strategy early when you notice warning signs, and praise any use of it.
  6. Review what worked after difficult moments, once the student is calm.

Why it works

  • Students can’t use skills they haven’t been taught
  • Gives the student control over their own reactions
  • Reduces frequency and intensity of outbursts

When to use it

  • Students with frequent frustration, anxiety, or anger
  • After a meltdown, once the student is calm
  • In small groups or 1:1 with a counselor

Tips and pitfalls

  • Practice calm-down skills when calm, not in the middle of a meltdown.
  • Model the strategies yourself: “I’m frustrated, so I’m going to take three deep breaths.”

Templates for this strategy

My calm-down plan

A student-facing plan to recognize warning signs and choose calming strategies. Complete it together when the student is calm.

My calm-down plan.docx

ABC observation log

Record what happened before, during, and after each incident to find patterns and the likely function of the behavior.

ABC observation log.docx

Helps with

Not working after a fair trial?

Check that it’s been used consistently for 4–6 weeks and that your data shows the pattern. If so, look at the next tier of support for this behavior.

Tier 3 · Intensive